Lacey Smith

Accepting our differences

In Uncategorized on January 8, 2013 at 4:31 pm

So clear back before New Years, Christmas, the Sandy Hook tragedy and the ridiculous “Wear Pants to Church day”, I was working on this post.

As I wrote it, it became clear that it really needed to be at least two posts.

I know there is a possibility of offending people on this and a real likelihood that there will be a lot of disagreement. However, I think it’s time we really had this conversation.

When I look at where we are as a country today and where so many individuals are in their lives, I see common factors, good and bad. One of the bad ones is that our homes, our families, our very natures are degraded. Somewhere along the way, we have lost what it means to be who we are.

This is especially true when it comes to gender and gender roles.

Unfortunately, over the last 100 years especially the critical differences between men and women have become mortally wounded.

We live in a society that gives little value to men and sets women up to fail. The feminist movement, particularly what is referred to as second and third wave feminism, not only takes down gender barriers, it destroys man- and womanhood.

Of course individuals are falling apart. We have destroyed any value in who they are at their most basic and replaced that with transient and uncontrollable things.

Of course the family is falling apart. We have destroyed the value of men and the value of women, convincing them they can do it on their own. We have destroyed everything that makes a family unit appear necessary.

Of course our society is falling apart. We have destroyed the building blocks that make for a good society (healthy individuals and healthy families).

We can’t fix anything in politics, in our schools, with our churches or anywhere else we have problems until we fix what’s wrong with us.

One of those things is this silly notion that gender doesn’t matter and gender roles are out-dated and valueless. They are not.

There are things that are essentially male and essentially female.

As much as I might like, I will never be as effective at or even able to do some things as my husband and there are things that he will never be as good at or even capable of doing as I am.

We are different. Genetically. So why should we expect that we can be the same in all things? Why should we expect to be “equal”? We are not and cannot be.

(In case it needs to be said, this does not mean the law should see me differently. The law should be blind and it should not matter if I am a man or woman, black or white, rich or poor. The law should apply the same to everyone (both in protecting and punishing).)

Our culture, and modern feminism especially, tries to ignore that we are different.

This sense of sameness is evil. It undercuts our society, security and even our very worth. It lessens us as men and women, which is at the core of who we are. Nothing is more essential than our gender and all that comes with it.

There is power in being a woman or a man and embracing all that comes with that. There is power in expecting others to live up to their woman- or manhood. There is power that comes from honoring a man as a man and a woman as a woman.

I don’t know that this is step one in fixing America, but it is an early step. We must empower people to take back their essential selves and part of that is embracing what is critically part of our nature.

We must accept our differences. We would do well to embrace them.


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